The Tale of Every Extrovert

I am an extrovert, therefore I am….

Happy.

Loud.

Cheerful.

The life of the party.

Coming to terms, that we are an extrovert actually gives us so many possibilities to unlock. We, as human beings, need to acknowledge who we are and what we are. This gives us the sense of security and freedom.

We might see someone as introvert or extrovert. I thought that I was an ambivert at first…but my brother told me that it wasn’t true. Because everyone in this life are ambiverts. We all have that introvert and extrovert degrees in some kinda way. Difference just lays down between which one is the strongest trait for you… extrovert or introvert...

That…is my result. Idk how that happened..but I used to be an ENFP-T. I took the test 3 times and still it came of as ESFP-T.

Why so suddenly???

The first personality test I took, was when I was still in senior high. I think, entering college really changed how I approached things and all. I used to be Judging Person..but now I am just Turbulent..haha..what a pity.

Problems of being an Extrovert

I talk too much

Why I think talking too much is a problem? Because when we talk to much, we usually are less sensitive about the impacts of our conversations. Might as well regretting it later. Then how can I stop it?

I just shushed my mouth and think more. Maybe when people are talking, I tried to hold back more and try to think over small things that maybe seems unimportant.

This is one way that I settled my problem of being too loud. It works well, but…it creates another problem.

I overthink things.

Highs and lows

Just like a roller coaster my mood can goes up to high point to another higher point and then just goes downhill.

I hate to admit it but it’s true.

And this pattern only shows when I’m with my family. Idk why…but my sister and brother noticed this pattern before I did.

I tried to figure out why…

It’s because I got tired of sharing the happy vibes and then at some point just stop myself from enjoying it.

This..nonetheless makes me worry..because usually when I went downhill, I’m just an electron. Negative vibes everywhere.

Solution?

I just sleep.

Sleeping is a very powerful activity. Because usually when you experience these downs — you need a break. For me, sleeping provides that break.

I need to be happy all the time

This — is one of the biggest mistakes, all extroverts do.

Because no one needs to fake their happiness.

Just because you are the life of the party, doesn’t mean you have to please everyone. Having a hectic life is normal. Being left out is normal. Being sad is normal. Being tired is also normal.

You also need a break and a support system.

You can cherish other people, but don’t forget to cherish yourself to.

I am turbulent

As I mentioned before, since entering college my perfectionism really became wilder. At some point, I want everything to be perfect — and life just said “Not so easy,partner”

I usually overthink issues like this. I take failures really — really seriously. And in the end, I’m disappointed at myself.

My anger and frustration of these failures build up the sense of fearing failure itself…and there you go…the perfect combo for one Turbulent person.

It’s easy

I overthink — I got internally panic — I was criticized — I got butthurted

Then hesitating on my next moves.

Simply…turbulent

How do I fix this???

Recharging

I surround myself with positive people. As an extrovert, I do believe that people can help me. They talk to me and they give motivations. I take those energies and make them mine. Usually I go to the wisest person and talk to them about my problems. That’s why I called them my supporting system or mood boosters.

Listen to motivational quotes

The wisest words I’ve ever heard is,

“You will always make mistakes so focus more on how to fix it, rather than contemplating on how it turned out”

Sleep, eat or just walk

I usually gave myself a break time, where I appreciate of all the things that I’ve done. I walk alone or I eat alone and just enjoy the day. No more drama, no more overthinking, just simply enjoying the present.

Conclusions

Being an extrovert is also a hard thing to do. As we all know in this era, people will feel lonely in crowd. The tales of an extrovert and the problems that comes with it, it’s still a lesson.

All you need is self assurance and patience to make it through.